A Gentle Reminder…You Are Not Alone

“You are not alone” is one of my favourite mantras. It’s something I so passionately try to express in my writings and it is also why I especially enjoyed making this “gentle reminder”… hoodie for a very special customer last evening. 

We all go through our own set of experiences and challenges which can oftentimes leave us feeling isolated, disconnected or alone. 

Maybe it’s the overwhelm we experience from the pressure of a new job or becoming a new parent.

Maybe it’s the trauma we are facing from a relentless bully.

Maybe it’s the grief we experience after the loss of a loved one.

Maybe it’s the emotions we go through when we feel like no one truly understands our mental health struggles. 

Maybe it’s fearing we are stuck in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. 

Maybe your feelings aren’t being  validated or your needs aren’t being met by those who are closest to you or maybe you truly believe that no one cares at all. 

But the truth is, no matter what challenges you are experiencing right now “you are not alone”. If you just go looking for it you are sure to find many more people out there who can relate to your own challenges or experiences you are going through.

You don’t need to carry your burden all alone.

Support is available. You are not alone. 

Ask for help. You are not alone.

Reach out (right now!) to the people in your life you care about and let them know that no matter what, they too are not alone. 

And as one final gentle reminder…if you are unable to reach out to those closest to you or someone you trust, help is still available in other ways as well through 24/7 distress lines, your local emergency room, mobile crisis response teams, online forums and more (see full list of resources available below). There is always someone out there for you. You are never alone.

https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/crisis-resources (link in my bio)

*if you would like to purchase your own gentle reminder hoodie, onesie, tshirt or lawn sign please contact us @agentlereminderproject on Instagram or DM today!

#youarenotalone #agentlereminder #youareenough #mentalhealth #apparel #mantra #camh #startaconversation #itsoktonotbeok 

Monday Morning Superstitions

I got into bed last night anxiously awaiting to hear from Hannah that she’d landed safe and sound in Israel. 

The text came in around 12:15 am. 

I quietly breathed in a big sigh of relief (for anyone who may not know this but flying is my number one biggest fear in life ever since a very young age and has only gotten worse over time as my anxiety disorder progressed; thankfully I have never projected this fear on to any of my kids even though they are very much aware of it, but they are also very respectful of it which is why they always text me the minute that their plane hits the ground 😇!). 

The week had now officially come to a close. I tried to rest easy. It had been a particularly tiresome and emotionally draining week for me and I was so glad for it to finally be over and was actually looking forward to the week ahead which was showing some signs of positive light for both me and my family as well; something I normally find quite difficult to see.

But by 11am this morning I was ready to call a truce. I just wanted to crawl back into bed and pull the covers over my head because the start of the new week, the one that found me wishing away the beautiful weekend in exchange for the heavy rain and thunderstorms as the energy of positive light radiated throughout my body for the coming week had already been met with not one, not two but three bad omens, one of which included Maggie taking a big tumble down the stairs first thing this morning (she was very shook up for quite a while afterwards but she seems to be okay otherwise 😇). 

Before noon today I felt like I’d been kicked in the stomach and that these events and happenings that took place were further signs of something worse to come.

Well hopefully the week is still young and that positive light can once again be restored to where it was early, early this morning and that even though they say that all bad things come in three’s there is also the belief that all good things come in three’s too!

I’m not one who usually believes in superstitions but especially of late I’d have to say that “if it wasn’t for bad luck I wouldn’t have any luck at all” but I did take this pic (see attached) yesterday afternoon of our car thinking it was possibly the sign we’ve needed that our luck may be changing?

Do you believe in superstitions?

#mondaymotivation #omens #positivelight #superstitions #mondaymorning #goodluck #badluck #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #anxiety #youarenotalone #itsoktonotbeok #maggie 

What Does A Good Day Feel Like When You’re Depressed?

Today this memory popped up on Facebook https://youareenough712.wordpress.com/2020/05/14/honour-thy-graduate/. I remember it well. I felt so proud and beyond grateful at the same time to be standing beside my youngest daughter on our front lawn to take our photo for an article that had been written up in our local paper about the launch of my “Class of 2020” Graduation lawn sign initiative. 

Living with Depression on a daily basis as I do is more than just a feeling of sadness and for someone who has never experienced it before it’s often difficult to understand because many days there is no clear explanation as to why I am feeling the way I do. I can only tell you that it is a feeling I don’t choose to have, a feeling I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy and it’s a feeling I can’t just snap out of because Depression is an illness and sometimes just being able to achieve the simplest goals like getting out of bed or putting one foot in front of the other can give you a huge sense of accomplishment. 

Yes there can be good days or moments in your day that feel good when living with Depression. 

I cherish these good days or the moments in my day when I can actually get shit done, catch up on everything I have avoided or procrastinated about for days or possibly weeks or even months and I especially cherish the good days or the moments in my day when I can show up and just be in the moment with the ones I love.

*FYI I am awaiting the delivery of my first order of “Class of 2022” lawn signs this week. If you would still like to purchase one I will be placing another order soon. Thank you to everyone who has already contributed to this year’s initiative and supporting my continued efforts to help change the conversation and make a difference in the lives of our young people. 

#gooddays #goodmomentsinmyday #classof2022 #lawnsigns #ouryouthmatter #familymatters #yourmentalhealthmatters #itsoktonotbeok #youarenotalone #itsoktoaskforhelp #youarestrongerthanyouthink #startaconversation #thankyou #mentalhealth #depression #goals #gettingshitdone #sicknotweak #kidshelpphone 

Compassionate York Region

I have been invited to speak this coming Thursday night, May 12th at 7:30 pm for the “Compassionate York Region” Initiative  (http://www.compassionateyorkregion.ca/) which is under the umbrella of  “The International Charter of Compassion” movement; their mission is to see to it that every community around the world “be committed to living by the principle of compassion”.

Compassion is one topic that I am… well…very compassionate about and on Thursday evening I will be sharing the story of my tiresome journey over the last 8 years that has left me yearning for self-compassion but has also led me on a pathway to a deeper more meaningful purpose; one that focuses on helping others and one that is done with a pure heart and lots and lots of compassion through my Blogging @ youareenough712.wordpress.com, my children’s book “Where Did Mommy’s Smile Go?” and my Mental Health Advocacy. 

If you live in the York Region area and would like to learn more about how you can get involved in “enhancing the narrative of compassion” and connecting with others in our great community as well please join me (message me for Zoom link) and the Founders of “Compassionate York Region” along with other community members who share the same passion for “creating conversations for compassionate communities”. 

If you live in another Region, Province or Country and would also be interested in learning more about this wonderful initiative for your own community please go to: http://www.charterforcompassion.org/ for more info.

#internationalcharterforcompassion #compassionateyorkregion #compassion #selfcompassion #myjourney #mentalhealthadvocate #blogger #childrensbookauthor #tellyourstory #compassionatecommunities #initiative #mentalhealth #mentalwellness

My Monday Motivation

Someone very near and dear to my heart sent me this earlier today. I may not always be able to see it for myself but a gentle reminder sure feels pretty darn good 😊😇

#mondaymotivation #agentlereminder #chosenfamily #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #kindnessisfree  #itsoktonotbeok #youareenough #mentalhealthadvocate #blogger #childrensbookauthor

Mother’s Day 2022

My cherry blossoms

My #summerofrich Mother’s Day; It’s the one day of the year they can’t say no!!!  

Thank you for all the gentle reminders today and for making me feel extra special. Looking forward to spending our Anniversary on the 21st at the Jay’s game with you Rich (just so you know Jacob, Hannah and Rachel, I would not have objected had you got me Leaf’s playoff tix either 😁🤣 😆)! xoxo

You continue to amaze me more and more each and every day as I watch you grow into the remarkable, kindhearted, hardworking young adults that you have become. 

You are my 💛. My 🌎. The 🍎🍎 🍎 🍎’s of my eye (one for Maggie 🐶 too).  

“I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living, my babies you’ll be.” ~ Robert Munsch.  

Run Maggie Run

I love you all to the moon and back, forever and a day. I am truly blessed that you call me mom. 

Thanks for the beautiful crown Shira 👑 😘

#cherryblossoms #alltrails  #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #happymothersdsay #wearacrown #springtime #mythreereasonswhy #youareenough #gentlereminders @bluejays @agentlereminderproject

Motherhood

Motherhood is inarguably one of the toughest jobs in the world.

You’re always on call.

The pay really, really stinks.

Your hard work often goes unnoticed and can sometimes be met without an ounce of gratitude or even a simple thank you.

And you can never, EVER retire!

But the bonuses you receive, now that’s what truly makes Motherhood priceless!

I know that for many though, today can also be the one day of the year you dread most.

For some, today may be filled with feelings of sorrow, grief or loneliness but it’s okay to give yourself permission to feel your pain and heartache.

Go right ahead and embrace today by honouring yourself with some much needed and well-deserved kindness and self-love.

Wishing you all a very Happy and peaceful Mother’s Day day!

#mothersday #mythreereasonswhy #imperfectlyperfect #motherhood #bekindtoyourself #themostrewardingjob #selfcare #selflove #yourarenotalone #youareenough

Has The System Failed Me Again?

*talk of suicide, may be triggering to some*

It’s been a little over a month now since my treatment of Psilocybin took place but with each passing week I’ve had more and more difficulty talking about my progress due to my mental health. During this time though I’ve continued to be closely monitored regularly by “virtual” and in person visits with the clinical Nurse in charge of the study along with my Psychiatrist and Therapist (thank God for her).

I had mentioned shortly after my treatment that I’d experienced some very discomforting side effects like continuous tingling in my hands and feet, brain zaps and shakiness from it which began at the onset of the treatment and in my “professional opinion” I had assumed that these neurological symptoms were likely caused due to the lengthy “trip” I went on which left me convulsing for over five hours. I figured they would simply disappear within a few days to a week afterwards but have instead been getting progressively worse along with many additional symptoms being too awkward, uncomfortable, embarrassing and difficult to talk about. 

I have always been way more comfortable helping others than asking for help myself but if I’ve learned anything over the last eight years it’s how important it is to ask for help even when the conversations may be awkward, uncomfortable, embarrassing or too difficult to talk about. This week I’ve needed to have several of those awkward, uncomfortable, embarrassing and very difficult to talk about conversations; I eased in slowly by getting up the courage to first talk to Rich and have since opened up to my Therapist, Psychiatrist and family Doctor. 

Until this week I hadn’t been completely truthful with any of them about how I’ve really been feeling but I knew I needed to get honest with both myself and them as well because some of my symptoms have been getting progressively worse and although they’ve been causing me a whole lot of distress, shame and embarrassment, they have now reached the point where they are also making my life too unbearable to want to live. 

I’m exhausted and feel so defeated. I once again feel like a failure. I’m once again left feeling like what the heck is wrong with me? Why is nothing working? Why does it feel like everytime I try any new medications or treatment I take 2 steps backwards? Why does my body and mind both seem to react so negatively to every single medication and treatment? Why does the system keep letting me down? It’s frustrating as hell.

I am however feeling some relief that I finally found the strength this week to reach out for help and that I am hopeful that both my Psychiatrist and family Doctor will work together in taking the necessary next steps into finding the root cause of my symptoms, some of which are quite rare. 

It’s been a really long week but I am super thankful that I got a chance earlier this week to honour myself by attending a wonderful retreat day which gave me just enough rejuvenation in order to find the strength to ask for help and to also confide in a couple of my close friends as well because I am feeling super alone right now. I know how super hard it can be to talk about the hard stuff, the painful stuff, the challenging, embarrassing, awkward and shameful stuff but by taking that extra step to reach out for support proves to the world that you are a fighter and a force to be reckoned with. 

And just knowing there are people in your life who accept you and love you and only want what’s best for you makes it so much easier when you can do it together and is quite honestly one of the bravest, most badass things you will ever do. #itsoktonotbeok

#itsoktoaskforhelp #strength #courage #youarenotalone #psychiatry #therapy #Psilocybin #clinicaltrial #sideeffects #suicideprevention #suicideawareness #depression #anxiety #friendship #confidante #brave #badass #youareenough 

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